How to Tell If You're Spreading Yourself Too Thin?
Hey guys! I hope everyone had a nice weekend. Lately I've been working on something that I've had a hard time with for yearsssss....and that is telling myself no. I've always been strong -willed even at a young age. I started working at the age of 15, because I needed the independence to buy and do the things that I wanted!
After college I had 3 jobs - including an internship, part-time retail position, and special events butler on occasion. I'm thankful that I have this hard work ethic and drive but I now realize that I spread myself way too thin. Last year I experienced severe dizziness and faintness at work due to exhaustion. Do you know how embarrassing it is to have your manager call you an Uber to go home?! *sigh*
Or most recently, I was so tired that I touched a hot burner on my stove with my bare hands. Yep, I know. I sat there with my hand under cold water for 15 minutes and that's when I figured I needed to go to bed. At this point I had to tell myself no to doing the rest of the things I wanted to get done that night. I decided to listen to what my body wanted me to do.
That's an important part to self-care. We have to listen to ourselves. Our bodies will give us signs to slow down. We can tell if we're dehydrated, fatigued, or emotionally drained. It's all about tuning in. Below are a few ways to tell if you're spreading yourself too thin:
- Not being able to focus at work
- Missing work deadlines/ not completing assignments to your best ability
- Being quick to anger and frequently feeling irritable
- No energy to eat & loss of appetite OR stress eating
- Having constant negative thoughts
- Body aches and muscle tension
- You feel out of order and like a wreck
If you have any of these symptoms I would take some time to rest & relax! Whatever you are working to accomplish will get done, but it doesn't have to happen in the exact moment that you would like. It's okay to not cook dinner, go to the gym, twist your hair, and wash clothes all in one night. It's okay to tell people no I can't make it. As much as I like being on the social scene, I've turned down many events recently because I needed to rest.
At work I've started the practice of writing down the top 3 things that need to get done for the day. We don't need to finish our entire to-do list in 8 hours. This relieves the pressure of trying to do too many tasks in one day.
I'm working on tuning in, slowing down, telling myself no, and being content in God's timing for assignments.
Can anyone else relate to this post? I'd love to hear in the comments below!